Dave
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From: T C
Date: Mon, 17 Aug 2009 03:05:30 +0000
To: <davemat@rogers.blackberry.net>
Subject: RE: Please Read
I have contacted my lawyer and a date will be set for sometime in September. A decision can then be made regarding a transition from supervised visitation to alternating weekends. Allowing 24-48 hour visits in your home every other weekend. I do not believe we can or should make any changes prior to that date without the courts consent. We have been bound to the Saturday commitment at Consensus for over 3 years now and although the children have accepted it as part of their weekly routine, they are also limited to only having Sundays as the only morning they can sleep in and their only day to relax. Recognizing their individual needs and respecting their feelings during this process will be very important. Both are very sensitive to any stressful situation and respond with inappropriate behavior (Tantrums and urine retention). I wouldn't recommend this change be at the beginning of the school year. Communicating issues concerning the children and managing them will be difficult to do without having completed any mediation. I will try to explore what resources are available (other than Consensus) and if there are any services, at a low cost, to help us recommence communication and/or assist with transfer. Involving other family members would not be the best solution. I would prefer professional support to insure safety and minimize any conflict while helping the children adjust. They need love & stability most of all. We will somehow have to try to resolve things and make this a positive change. One that can help us all move our lives forward.
Best regards,
Tina
> To: frisky_freya5@hotmail.com
> Subject: Please Read
> From: davemat@rogers.blackberry.net
> Date: Fri, 14 Aug 2009 01:53:18 +0000
>
> Tina,
> You may get this, you may not but as you have mentioned to Joanne you want this to stop sooner than later which I will agree with you on. I'm not writing to ask anything about you or your personal life nor will I divulge anything from mine in the body of this email. We have to find a way to fix this outside of the courts, you know this and so do I, but if you have chosen that route then I will follow your lead. If not one temporary suggestion is to do the Saturday thing for a month trial having you drop the kids off at my grand parents since you are very comfortable with them. You can decide weather or not you show up first and then they call me to go get them (which seems like a good idea) or I show up first and then you drop them off, and from there I can have them for the day to go and do whatever we would have planned. Neither of us can afford the court route - you know this and so do I and it's not doing Dre or Kiara any good. That's what i think - I don't expect you to write back nor do you have to, if you want go through my family, like my mom or grandparents and from there we build. I am asking for you to not use this for personal gain - not implying that you are or would, but I am putting a lot of trust in you by writing to you, but my children mean more to me than I think you realise and I am not doing this to jeopardise seeing them, I am writing you because we both agree it's time to move forward.
>
> Thank you for listening,
> Dave
> Sent from my BlackBerry device on the Rogers Wireless Network
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